Thursday, January 6, 2011

dreaming

I have gone to three blogs today and heard the word wedding. And well I got to thinking. Many of you guys have asked me about our wedding, and was it fabulous? I wish…It was one of the happiest days of my life, but we were young & supporting ourselves. No loving Father for me to count on. Therefor we could not afford a wedding. My Grandfather married us during church, and my Grandmother stood by my side all proud (RIP). I could remember him asking if there was a ring. My honey pulled out a ring I already had, and I could hear one of my Aunts screaming, “ALRIGHT NOW”…little did she know (LOL). But we were happy to be married, and so happy to call everyone, and tell them we DID IT. Looking back, of course every woman wants a wedding that makes them smile over the beauty. But if I cant have the vision that I see. I wont settle for anything less, unless its only he and I on a beach somewhere in linen. That’s just how I am. Either go big, or get married during church(LOL).  We have been together 18 years now and growing, and that in itself is enough to satisfy me. But below are a few images that I picked out that I love, and would use as guides if I were planning this day for us.

dresses

shoes

 

 

mister

 

 

location

 

cake

 

music

 

and they lived happily ever after….even without the above or a honeymoon.

tamswa

 

High Fives & Hugs,

Tam

38 comments:

K. Rock said...

Awww. This is a really cute post!

Tasha said...

Oooh i loved this post, it was too cute, and i loved the shoes, hey if this was your wedding it would have been fab!!!

New York State of Mom said...

LOVE THIS!!! We didn't have the big wedding I've thought of but I was happy to marry my best friend. You two really are an inspiration to keepin it going and keepin it loving!

Nappy Style said...

It is not tooo late. I was looking at blogs yesterday and this bride decided to remarry her sweetie in a beautiful ceremony with only close friends and family. Maybe this is a good year to do it. Congrats on your 18 years of marriagae.

http://chocolatebrides.com/2010/11/ola-tokunbo-and-saheed-breathtaking/

Chyanne M. said...

I say renew your vows and have your dream wedding. C'mon...make your dream come true.

God's Favorite Shoes! said...

What an adorable post! I go to a church wear the pastor believes in on the spot weddings...like literally...right before altar call!

I usually giggle but I get it...and might be leaning towards that concept myself:)

Do u guys thinks of having a a simple renewal of vows ceremony maybe on your 20th anniversary?

God's Favorite Shoes! said...

*where* not WEAR!! YIKES

TamStyles said...

I thought of us doing something at 15 years or 20 years. it will be 14 years married in april..so we will see. if i can find a church like that here in dallas..i will do it, just simple...but maybe j crew styled. not many people...cause my circle is tight..the kids..and someone that loves us both to do the vows.

TamStyles said...

I thought of us doing something at 15 years or 20 years. it will be 14 years married in april..so we will see. if i can find a church like that here in dallas..i will do it, just simple...but maybe j crew styled. not many people...cause my circle is tight..the kids..and someone that loves us both to do the vows.

Lorrie said...

awwww I've been married 18 years also and I was blessed to have a big splashy wedding. My dad offered me downpayment on a house...but I took the weeding... Looking back girl, being chocked by my mortgage each month now...
I should have taken the MONEY!
But when you're young...you've got princess on the brain!
I'm hear to testify...it's only great for that day...don't get me wrong, all you missed was the creativity and hustle of a wedding...which you do every day in your life....so you ain't missing much.
Blessings!

TamStyles said...

lorrie you are to funny. i aint missing much?

Dayka (Life +Style) said...

i loved this post! you guys are such a cute couple, and i love that your affection is still so palpable after all these years! those dresses, especially the 3rd one in the top row, would look AMAZING on you, and you MUST keep your hair short for that. i love the little chapel in the woods too. your inspiration is so beautiful--can i come??? :)

talk to you later!

Champagne Taste said...

This was an ADORBALE post! We didn't have a big wedding either... we paid for everything ourselves and I DIYED EVERYTHING.. It still was the Best day of our lives and everything still was BEAUTIFUL!I envied alot of the girls on the wedding blogs whos parents were paying for their 40 and 50 thousand dollar weddings... but realized that's not what it's about... Besides, I showed them that you can have equal FABULOUS wedding on a budget of 2,000.00 and nothing about our day was cheap or cheesy looking :) id marry my baby in a trash bag at the popeyes just to be able to say I'm his wife! If I could do it all over! I don't think I'd change a thing... well... actually if I could do it all over we'd have gone to the JOP in a bad ass white suit.. just me and him and we would have gone to somebody's island for our honeymoon... We may renew at 50 years... I say go for it as well hun :) U deserve it!

chanel.c.davis said...

AWESOME! AWESOME! AWESOME!

I love this post. And it's not too late. You should do it up for you 20th. I just made 11 years with my hubbie and apparantly thats a huge accomplishment these days, so when you make it to 20, you DESERVE a formal celebration.

Can I come? It's going to be beautiful.

I have never commented on your blog before, but you inspired me today.

Best Wishes!

ChaneLD

TamStyles said...

@chanel thanks so much. what sweet words and congrats to you and your love!

@dayka...your to funny

@Cham Taste--wow $2k...you go. I had cankles during my wedding.

ill have seats for yall reserved!

Aimee said...

sweet post :) thanks for sharing

Heather said...

This is so sweet. We had our wedding last year and I wouldn't change anything. Except I wanted peonies and they were out of season. :) A girl never gets everything haha! I think the MOST important thing about marriage is what happens after and it sounds like you have been completely blessed in that regard. Who needs a wedding if you have everything after!

Bri@Meyouandawiener said...

Your husbands very stylish something my husband needs to learn!

Product Junkie Diva said...

hey Tam
I love this post! I think weddings are beautiful, I just love them. However, the most important thing, as highlighted through your post, is the longevity of the union. I have heard of lavish weddings that end in a few month, and then there are those who have less spectacular weddings but they live happily forever-that's what it's all about. I will take longevity over lavish any day but those dresses you selected are nice..lol
pjd

Lynett said...

Tam the most important thing is the love between two people. The size of the ring and the wedding doesn't matter. You guys rock!

Sylvie said...

Sounds like you had a beautiful wedding without the "fluff" 18 years later speaks fr itself.

TamStyles said...

as always thanks so much for the beautiful comments.

Summer said...

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xoxo Summer

court. said...

i support a tam and mr dapper wedding revamp!

your story brought tears to my eyes. i've been to and in so many weddings where it's all about the WEDDING and not the PEOPLE. yours clearly was the latter.

so sweet. great post.

Jasmine said...

Tam,

I LOOOOVED this post! Ok, yes I love everything LOL but I'm serious and I always mean it.

I think it was totally sweet to get married during church with your family there, hubby and I got married a few short years ago at a justice of the peace and I really wish that, at the very least, we could have had some family there.

You two are an inspiration, being married that long is a blessing in itself and a wedding isn't really necessary but giiiiiirl, I know your wedding would be fierce! and I would cross my fingers for an invite ;)

~Jazz

Dhalia said...

Such a cute post Tam. :-)

jtbrown said...

We had a very simple non-wedding ceremony as well and I would love to do another one around our 15th or 20th anniversary. You have great ideas about yours!

Courtnee said...

This post is so sweet and I love the photo of you and Mr. Styles.

Brooke's Closet said...

Picture Perfect!
The black dress is d'bizness!
Everything else is GRAND!

I agree go BIG or don't go at all.
I went to the courthouse.
Happily Married! is the end of that one.
WE had a big after party and 4 years later here we stand....*yeah not long but it's all good*

caramelnaps25 said...

Tam this is one of my favorite posts! I am such a visual person so I can hear your aunt and envision the ceremony:) So sweet!!! I say plan for next year, do a 15th, 25th and so on!!!! You and the Mister give me hope!!! It's been seven years and counting!

I love ALL of the dresses! You'd rock any one of them!!!!!!

SAJ said...

Very sweet! I love it all.

Angela said...

Tam, you can always renew your vows. I'm a wedding fanatic.

Hubby and I had a lovely wedding but 11 years later we renewed our vows on the same weekend we were married on beach with just the two of us at sunset. We rented a fab beach house and hired an award winning photographer for 3 hours. I bought one of those form fitting dresses as you pictured and Hubby wore a white Italian-cut suit. It was better than our first ceremony. My hubby cried.

Do it!!! No matter what you plan, it will be memorable. Now you can include your children if you'd like to or make it that get-a-way just for you two.

Colleen said...

You've worked really really hard at creating the kind of life you always wanted as a little girl.

I say you deserve the wedding of your dreams.

15 years sounds like a great time for a grand ceremony...grand of the heart. It doesnt matter if its on a beach or in your backyard. If you want to wear THE dress, then you should wear THE dress.

Statistically speaking, you and the Mister have defied the odds. You should mark the occassion with an affirmation that the two of you have weathered every storm by holding on to each other, by holding on to LOVE.

So get to planning Sister. Pull together the venue, the menu and THE dress. Make your dream real...you've managed to accomplish so much already. Whats a little wedding to someone as strong willed as you? ; )

Michelle said...

sniff!! (wiping tears). can't wait to see your wedding pics. i agree. make your dream come true.

Erika at BluLabel Bungalow said...

Just think, you could always do a 20 year bash!

Down and Out Chic said...

b and i got married at the courthouse (just 4 short months ago) and although we didn't have the money for a wedding, i don't regret a thing about it. the idea of planning a wedding caused me great anxiety anyways so maybe it was just meant to be that way. i do like daydreaming though and all your picks are lovely.

SeptemberSkies said...

Wow,amazing post. I think renewing your vows would be a great way to celebrate a beautiful 15 year marriage. People throw parties all the time why not to celebrate the love you guys share...

The Budget Brides Handbook said...

Absolutely LOVE this post. Mr. Budget and I have really been thinking about going low key especially since I am opening up a bridal salon next year. I love your concept. We share a love for peonies. Great Job.